Love Your Single Life

Great question! I think online courses are still a bit of an unfamiliar thing. So let’s break down what it actually looks like to join us. 

When you sign up for the course, you’ll make a username and password. That information allows you to log in to a private website where you can see the videos and workbook that make up the content of the course.

The course goes for four weeks, and on Monday of each of those four weeks, you’ll be able to see a new set of videos. They’re pre-recorded, so you don’t need to be a certain place at a certain time. You can watch them on your own time. If you fall behind in those four weeks, that’s totally fine. You can catch up whenever you like. The videos don’t expire. You’ll have access to them indefinitely. So you can take however long you want to go through them, and once you’re through them, you can always go back and watch them again.

So how it works is that you watch the video (they range in length. Some are 10 minutes, the bonus videos tend to be longer), and then once you’re done watching the video, you head to your workbook (which you’ll get when you sign up!) and you’ll answer some questions there.

That way you’re not just learning, you’re putting it into practice in your life!

The third component of the course is that you get access to a private Facebook group. That group is just for girls who are going through the course, and it’s amazing because it’s this beautiful community where everyone’s in a similar stage of life all over the country, where they get to pray together, encourage each other, ask each other questions, and cheer each other on. That Facebook group is just so great because everyone gets to find out that they’re not alone in what they’re going through!

So the course really is a collection of videos, and a workbook for you to fill out, and a private Facebook group. You watch the videos, reflect on what you just learned and do some exercises in the workbook so you can actually put what you learned into practice. And you get to talk through it with a wonderfully supportive community in the Facebook group!

Again, I know that an online course is a new concept to lots of us. So I hope that makes it a bit easier to understand!

Love, I’m so happy this topic resonates with you so much! It’s one of my very favorite things to talk to women about.

So, unfortunately I don’t offer discounts, or do any scholarships, and that’s for two reasons.

The first is that I’ve done everything I can to offer this course at a rock-bottom price. Comparable courses and programs are usually offered for upwards of 1,000 dollars! And so because I want as many of us to be able to participate as possible, I’ve tried to keep the cost super low.

The other reason I don’t do discounts or scholarships is because I’ve noticed that there’s such a strong correlation between what we put into something and what we get out of it. When we’ve invested our hard-earned money into something, we’re more likely to give it the best of our time, and our effort.  You really will get so much more out of this course because you have some skin in the game. It’s crazy how it works that way. But it’s really true!

So I know money is such a tough thing for us. Trust me, budgets are such a thing in the Wilson house. And so if you’re not able to join us this time around, I totally understand. Hopefully you can join us sometime in the future!

Great question! If you keep pace with us in the Facebook group, the course should take you about two hours per week for a total of four weeks. 

But, while we’ll be keeping this four-week pace together in our Facebook group, know that you can absolutely take this course at your own pace. You’ll have lifetime access to the materials so you can start them whenever you want and take your time going through them.

And just in case you’re still thinking, “Steph, I’m in the midst of a super busy season. I just don’t think I have time to invest in this right now,” let me tell you a story about a med student who joined us last time we offered this course.

She knew she wanted to take the course but she was beyond busy. She just wasn’t sure it was the right time. We talked through it together and in the end, she decided to join us and here’s why.

She reasoned, “If I’m waiting until I’m done with med school to invest in my single and dating life, well, then I’m going to be waiting years. And then I’ll be starting a new job, and then, and then, and then. There will never be a time where this is convenient, and so I don’t want to wait! I don’t want to wake up years from now still feeling stuck in this area of my life. I want to start seeing breakthrough now, even if I do have to take the course at a slower pace.” I love that! It reminds me of one of my favorite quotes, “A year from now you will wish you had started today!”

But of course, that doesn’t change the fact that you’re really busy. If this is you, know that once you sign up for the course you will have access to the material for as long as the course exists (which we hope is years and years to come!).

So if you fall behind, or are traveling, or come across a busy season, that’s totally okay. You can go at your own pace. The content isn’t going anywhere.  (And you can come back and re-watch the videos any time you need a refresher!)

That’s totally up to you! If you’re loving your single life, feeling totally confident in your dating life, and feel like you’re doing great on your own, that’s awesome! I love that!

But if you…

• Feel lonely, or confused, or stuck, or find this season to be really hard
• Wish you could enjoy this season, but all you can focus on is what you don’t have
• Wish you could sit down with a friend who’s walked this road before and pick her brain about how she did it
• Wish you had some girlfriends who were also single who you could talk to about what you’re going through
• Wish you didn’t have to always learn things the hard way, and wish you had someone to guide you through
• You really have no idea what you’re doing when it comes to meeting guys, or dating, or you’ve been trying things and they’re just not working
• You want to start living a life you really love as a woman you’re really proud to be…

Then this course has your name all over it. You can totally try to figure this stuff out on your own. But life is so much better when we do it together, right? You have this resource available to you. Why not use it?

I got an email a few days ago that I could totally resonate with. It was from a girl who said,

"Steph, I saw that you teach a course called Love Your Single Life, and I'm absolutely going to sign up. It's exactly what I've been needing. But I do have this one hesitation...

If I start really loving my single life, won't that make it last longer?

I mean, I don't necessarily WANT to be single, and so isn't embracing singleness sort of resigning myself to it? If I really hunker down, and start enjoying it, won't I get stuck there? And this might be a crazy question, but isn't it possible that if I start to be totally content without someone to share my life with, God might give my person to someone else?"

I totally resonated with her question because I worried the exact same thing. In a way, I felt like I had to be unwavering in my discontent of my single life so that I didn't somehow get stuck there. If singleness was a big comfy couch, I felt like I had to perch uncomfortably on the arm of it, afraid that if I let myself sink back into it and really enjoy myself, that I'd never get up!

But while that may happen on a comfy couch, that doesn't happen when it comes to singleness.

First of all, God doesn't hand out husbands based on who is most miserable being single. That's just not how it works. (Thankfully!) And second of all, loving your single life doesn't mean you'll stay in it forever.

In fact, loving your single life and really making the most of this season might help it go faster, it will at least help it feel like it.

Making the most of your single life means you're living your life to the full and becoming the very best version of yourself. And these are the exact things that will help you be in the right place at the right time to meet your person and be ready for a great relationship when the time comes.

Not only that, but have you ever heard that old adage, "A watched pot doesn't boil"? My mom used to say it to me all the time as I'd peer into the still water with the Kraft Mac & Cheese box in my hand.

The truth is, that water was going to boil whether I was watching it or not, but my mom was helping me see that it was going to FEEL like it took a lot longer if I just stood there and stared at it. Whereas if I busied myself doing something else, the time would feel like it passed much more quickly.

A watched pot will boil, and the next chapter of your life will start, but the time in between will feel so much faster (and more fun!) if you're making the most of it.

That’s a great question! The last thing I’d ever want you to do is to invest in something that’s not going to really be helpful and beneficial to your life.

So I’ll tell you two things:

First: The principles, ideas, and lessons I’m going to teach you in this course have been backed up and verified by other experts in the different fields we’re diving into. Not only that, but I have personally used and benefited from each of these lessons, and it led to a single life I absolutely loved. And it’s done the same thing for my friends and my readers. In fact, we’ve had over 2,000 women take this course, and we get messages every day about how this course has helped them prepare for marriage, meet their husbands, meet their best friends, and start living the life they’ve always dreamed of.

Second: That being said, whether this works in your life is really up to you. You will get as much out of this course as you put into it. But I know that if you put your heart, your time, and your effort into this course and actually put these things into practice, your life will start to transform.

However, if you go through this entire course and feel that it wasn’t helpful, you can submit a refund request within 30 days of when you signed up. More than anything, I want this to be truly helpful for you!

Absolutely. More than anything, I want this to be helpful and beneficial to your life. And so if you make it through the course and feel like this wasn’t helpful, I would be more than happy to give you your money back (Not happy, because I’ll be sad that it wasn’t helpful… you know what I mean!)

But I do have three things I’ll ask you to do before I give you a refund:

1. I ask that you complete the course first and submit all of your completed worksheets to us. I want you to really put your heart into the course, really give it a solid chance before you decide it didn’t work.
2. I ask that you include a letter to us detailing the reasons the course wasn’t beneficial to you. We want to continue to make this course better, and so if it didn’t work, it’s important that we can understand why.
3. We ask that you submit your refund request within 30 days of when you signed up for the course. Since the course is only a month long, we won’t be able to give refunds after those 30 days are up.

Great question! I don’t currently have plans for when I’ll open the course up again. So if you’re interested in taking the course, I’d sign up now just to make sure you’re able to!

That’s a great question!

First of all, I applaud you for not being on Facebook. I love seeing women make the decision that’s best for them when it comes to social media.

Second of all, unfortunately, the community aspect of the course really is going to require a Facebook account. And so if you don’t have one, you have a few options.

You can…

1. Get back on Facebook just for the next month.
2. Create a new Facebook account just for the course. That way you can be part of the discussion in our Facebook group, but you don’t have to deal with any of the other distractions of Facebook.
3. Join us for the course without participating in the Facebook community. While you will miss out on the community aspect, you’ll still have access to all of the course content, and materials. So you’ll still be able to learn and apply everything in your life, you just wont be able to discuss it with the other women in the community. But that’s okay with me if it’s okay with you!

What you decide is entirely up to you! I want what’s best for you.

This is actually one of the questions we’re asked the very most, and I totally get it.

I joined a small group not long ago, and my first question was, “Am I going to be the oldest person in it?” We want to fit in with the communities we join, and especially for a topic that seems to accumulate shame with each passing year, we want to know — is everyone going to be younger than me?

This course was designed for women in their 20’s to mid-30’s, and the women who have joined us for each round of the course have ranged in age from 19-38. But, those are just the ages we designed the course for. If you are in your 40s, 50s, or even 60s, and you want to join us, we’d love to have you!

The only age requirement we have is that you must be AT LEAST 18 years old to join us. If you’re 18 or older, we would love to have you!

Now, if you are feeling like you’re on the older end of the spectrum, you might be thinking, “Listen, the last thing I need is someone else making me feel old.” And it can also be really hard to hear people who are younger than you say things like, “I’m running out of time!”

But here’s what I will say — the amount of pressure we feel to get married, the depth of our desire to get married, and the amount of shame we sometimes feel for not being married doesn’t actually correlate with age as much as we think it does. I have met amazing 40-year-old women who aren’t feeling any pressure to get married, and I’ve met 20-year-olds who are being crushed by the pressure.

We all come from different backgrounds, different families, and different types of pressure for when and how these things are supposed to happen in our lives. And here’s why I love that: Because 1. We’re not alone. No matter how old you are, you’re not alone in feeling the things you’re feeling. And that’s what this community is here to show you. 2. We all bring different perspectives, and so we can each offer wisdom and encouragement that the other women in the course need.

So — all of that to say, as long as you’re over 18, you are welcome! We have a wide range of ages in the course, and so you probably won’t be the youngest, and you probably won’t be the oldest either.

But, my challenge for you would be to not let age stop you. No matter how old we are, so many of us struggle with the things we talk about in this course, and that no matter how old we are, we don’t have to navigate them alone.

No! Of course not! Anyone is welcome! However, I will tell you that we do talk about Jesus, about prayer, and about the Bible throughout the course. So if that’s something you’re comfortable with, go ahead and join us! But if you’re looking for something that’s more faith-neutral, this might not be the best fit.

Yes! Absolutely! The women in the course are all over the map when it comes to past relationship history.

Each time, we have women join us who have been in lots of relationships, women who are fresh off of a breakup, women who have been married and recently divorced, and more. 

You are so welcome in this community, friend! 

Absolutely! We have tons of women join us for the course each time who have never been in a relationship. You're so welcome here, friend! 

You can begin the course as soon as you sign up! And then it will last for 3 more weeks. However, the course is self-paced and so if you’re out of town this week (or one of the weeks during the course), or if you fall behind, or are working with a crazy schedule, no worries at all! You’ll have access to the material indefinitely. So you can totally work at your own pace!

You’ll have access for as long as I offer the course! (So hopefully for years and years to come!)

We understand that life circumstances can change incredibly quickly, and so if you sign up but need to back out at the last minute, we totally understand. You have until the Monday that the course begins to back out for a full refund. But we’re unable to accept returns after the course begins.

If you complete the course and aren’t satisfied with it, however, that’s another story. Check out the FAQ with the title: “Okay, but if it really doesn’t work for me, can I get a refund?” to see our Satisfaction Guarantee.

This course is meant for individuals to go through on their own. However if you have friends who are also signing up, you could keep pace together and discuss what you learn at the end of each section!

Each login is meant to be for one person only. I kindly and humbly ask that you don’t share the content of this course — the videos, the worksheets, the information — with anyone who hasn’t themselves purchased the course.

Real talk for a second? My team and I pour so much time and energy into this course, and we love doing it! This is really so close to our hearts, so much of what we believe we’re meant to do in the world. And when copies are made, or login information is passed around (which is actually stealing) it really hurts our ability to continue.

If we find out that more than one person is using an account, we will revoke your access to the course. (We really don't want to have to do that!)  So we thank you so much in advance for your consideration and respect!

This course is designed to be an encouraging resource and a step in a healthy, positive direction, but it is not a replacement for professional in-person mentorship, counseling, or therapy.

I am not a licensed therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist, or counselor. If you feel you are in need of help please reach out to a professional or call a help hotline in your area to help you through your time of need. If it feels urgent call your local law enforcement for immediate assistance.

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